A lot of times you hear people talk about "I can live with it" or "I can deal with it," and then at times you hear people say, "I can't live without it." Of course the term "it" can refer to a lot of different things, from people, habits, career choices, hobbies, etc. Personally, I'd MUCH rather say "I can't live without it" than to just say "I can live with it," especially when it comes to a serious relationship or a passion. Now, I don't want to be as literal as saying you'll fall over and die if you don't have a certain person, place or thing in your life (LOL) but if the thought of you not having that "it" in your life makes you feel empty -- then, I'd say it's something you can't live without. When a person says they "can live with it," it comes across as something they are alright with or satisfied with, but it gives a totally different meaning. The "it" now becomes something that is expendable. Just a few examples of what I mean....
So, let's say it's a person that you can't live without. Again, we all know you're not going to literally drop dead if the a person isn't in your life but if the thought of them not being in your world feels devasting then this probably someone you can't live without. The loss of certain relationships can send a person spiraling into depression, eating disorders, issues with sleep, etc. Basically, it can rock your world -- and not in a good way! LOL. In my opinion, this depth of love is the type that most people should have when they enter into a marriage. You don't want to be with the man and/or woman who you're happy with and feeling alright about; you want to be with the person you can't imagine not spending your life with. The person you can't ever imagine not being able to see or talk to again because just the thought would crush your world.
Now, let's say the "it" is a career choice or a hobby that you can't live without. If you've ever talked to someone successful about how they got to that level of success, a lot of them will tell you that the main reason is because they loved what they were doing, they continued to push themselves further in that field, they couldn't see their lives without it, and the love that they had for it was so strong that they would do it for free. Or maybe it's a hobby like baking -- the love of that hobby was so strong that they decided to make this hobby their daily focus and career. Now, the hobby that they once made time for has become their life.
But there are some lines that need to be drawn also because addiction to food, drugs, people, and other things can be viewed by those individuals as something they can't live without, and that's simply not true. Well, maybe in terms of food...Yes, we need food to live and in this case you would fall over and die without it but overconsumption is where the issue lies. But ultimately, what we have here is a problem which I am not equipped to assess on this site...LOL. So, if you're ADDICTED to food, drugs, people, other things -- this philosophy does not apply to you! :-)
Ultimately, we all need to take the time to look in a mirror and seriously ask ourselves -- Can I live without it or am I choosing to live with it? You might be surprised at the answer if you're truly honest with yourself!
- KHurly Girl
