Ok, so what's the number one question asked by people when they find out that you're single?
***Drum roll, please***
"SO, WHY ARE YOU SINGLE?!" Goooooooood question!!! Honestly, I despise this question with a passion! LOL. Like I have time to run down all of my past relationships and explain why they didn't work out, or why I chose to leave the relationships, or what "he" did to make me leave, or the decisions "he" made to end the relationship, blah, blah, blah, etc, etc, etc!! I'd rather just say, "Because I want to be," although that's really not the case either. But, it's a lot easier just to say that!! ;-) But of course, people like to pry in your business and get details. Go figure! LOL.
So, I took some time to think about how I could give an accurate answer to this question without divulging all of my business! The number one reason that I'm single is because I know my worth and what I will and will not stand for in a relationship. It's not hard to meet men -- seriously, it's one or more at every corner you turn. But quality men are not as easy to meet. Like Drake said, "how can you find out who is real when anyone will leave with you"...LOL. I mean, I'm not chop liver over here. I am an intelligent woman with a lot of qualities that men find appealing and I'm very confident about this statement. I'm a girly girl but not so girly at the same time; I got that duality -- guys dig it! haha. And apparently, I'm viewed as "wife material" because I've been engaged twice and almost a third time. But unfortunately for those I've dated, I've ended 99.8% of all my relationships. Close family members have even called me "the runaway bride" but you have to get to the altar first to be able to run away, so that name would never stick. LOL. Some may even say that I'm a picky woman but that's simply not true either because I've dated a large spectrum of men; close friends can never tell what "my type" is, although I do have one. So, what's the real issue here!?
I know what I want in a man, and knowing what you want and meeting someone that fits the bill is not always simple. I know how I expect to be treated in a relationship and I know that I offer that same treatment in return to my partner. Is there room for error? Of course because I'm also a very forgiving woman; I will stick with a relationship through the ups and downs to make sure that I gave it my best shot. That can certainly be viewed as a positive and a negative though. But my main issue is that I'm not willing to settle for something less than what I deserve. I deserve a man that will cherish the love we build together. A man that will not take me for granted, and will work to maintain the beauty and purity of our relationship. I deserve a man that will put our relationship on a pedastool and put in the work necessary to make me happy, as I work to make him happy. I'm also a romantic and I look for the right chemistry in a relationship; do we have what it takes together to weather the storms because anyone can be there when everything is peaches and cream. There also has to be a good match when it comes to our spirituality and faith in God because that is of the utmost importance to me for marriage, because if I plan to one day allow this man to lead our family we need to be on the same page. I do have this idealistic view of what I want in a relationship but the realist in me knows there has to be room for compromise and he may not be able to check EVERY box. But that is fine with me, no one is perfect but I know there is a perfect person for me out there.
It just gets really disappointing when you meet guys and see the potential only to find out not long after that it's not going to work out. And I'm no spring chicken anymore, MY EGGS ARE AGING!! LOL. My friends think that is really funny to hear but I feel my internal clock ticking -- I'm ready for babies!! But I refuse to rush into a relationship because of this factor; it will all happen when it's supposed to happen for me. However, it's hard not to get caught up in the want of it all...waiting for "Prince Charming" and anticipating that ideal relationship that will outshine all the rest from your past. It can be hard at times but I'm optimistic. I know that when the time is right, the relationship will come. Until then, I'll continue to live the single life, date the "spectrum," pray for my ideal mate to recognize me as such, and live for today with hopes for the future. Although, I'm still single and my eggs are AGING!! LOL. Life goes on...
- KHurly Girl
